❤️ FALL IN LOVE
🔥 GET LAID
😋 HAVE FUN
Speed Dating Meets Soul Mating
(meets ADULT conversating!)
Spinner is a series of “spins,”
a virtual party designed to bring people together!
We are here to help you fall in love, get laid and have fun. We believe in the power of LOVE, LUST and LAUGHTER (sometimes all at the same time).
Come meet other progressive, feminist, sex-positive, anti-racist Portlanders!
CURRENTLY - you can find out about upcoming spins in our FACEBOOK group
(while FB is problematic,
it does allow us to do some necessary screening).
*if you are not on facebook, see alternatives at the bottom of the page)
Find a lover, a soul mate, an activist ally! Bond with a progressive community of like-minded humans from the “Anarchist Jurisdiction.”
We’ll play games, answer questions, get creative, get vulnerable, and yes, we’ll talk about sex.
We’ll celebrate our commonalities (and our carnalities!). We’ll learn from each other.
And we’ll engage in Pleasure Activism*!
Currently we are offering 2 different kinds of spins:
Spinner - HET (heterosexual)
Spinner - PAN (pansexual)
Spinner - HET
This spin is for you if you appreciate the broad spectrum of gender diversity but for the most part, you identify as either male or female and you are attracted to the “opposite” gender.
Spinner - PAN
This spin is for you if are open to meeting humans of all different kinds! You’re curious about people, regardless of gender, orientation, race or relationship status.
You identify (if at all) as queer, curious, perhaps somewhere in the LGBTQ spectrum.
You aren’t concerned about meeting the “opposite” sex because a) that suggests a binary, b) you fall in love with people, not genitals c) you’re more interested in the person than the package they come in.
How does it work?
You’ll meet several other humans in small groups, as well as one-on-one. We encourage you to be curious about the person whom you match with - even if they are not your “type”. This is an opportunity to meet people and find out more about their world.
You’ll be invited into a series of games and given conversation prompts. Topics will range from mild to wild and you are allowed to opt out of any question.
(and you can always leave a break out room and return to the "living room").
Towards the end of the spin - there will be some ‘free form’ time where you can connect with the group as a whole, and make individual connections.
Our intention is to provide opportunities for people from all kinds of backgrounds to come together - we welcome participants of all ages (over 18!), races, genders and sexual orientations.
We invite our differences into the conversations, and encourage curiosity about one another. We are here to build community, make friends, find lovers, and facilitate falling in love.
A word about falling in love.
You may have heard that falling in love is reserved for the one special someone that you are going to spend the rest of eternity with. You may have been taught that falling in love takes time, and discernment, and you can’t just fall in love at the drop of a hat.
We suggest a more generous view.
We believe you CAN fall in love at the drop of a hat, and the world is a better place for it. We just need more opportunities!
Love is not commitment. Love is not a contract. Love does not mean you owe anyone anything.
Love is seeing someone as whole and beautiful
JUST AS THEY ARE.
Love is being curious about their experience.
Love is witnessing their stories and really listening.
Love is being compassionate and kind.
We hope you will make friends, lovers, allies, and soulmates.
We hope you’ll meet people you might never meet in your daily life.
We hope you’ll question your own presumptions, and open your heart to all kinds of people.
We hope you’ll fall in love.
A word about lust.
You may have heard that lust is a sin, that desire is the downfall of humanity, that sex is a sacrilege. We beg to differ. We believe that sex is sacred and creative and that pleasure is the right of every human alive. We believe in sovereignty. Every one has autonomy over their body, and gets to choose what they want to do with it. We believe in consent, in asking first, in honoring no, and in the importance of communication.
Which is why we talk about sex. We need to practice talking about sex until it becomes normal. We live in a culture that says sex is private and bans the conversation from social media (and creates a porn ghetto where conversation doesn’t happen).
We provide a platform where conversations about sexuality and eroticism are encouraged, where we get to show up as sexual beings with stories and fantasies and curiosities and IT’S ALLOWED.
We understand that the topic can be fraught with tension and riddled with shame. We understand that it’s scary to be vulnerable, especially when it comes to sex. We encourage everyone to honor their comfort levels by monitoring their body. You are always invited to take a time out or pass on a question that feels too personal.
You are encouraged to share your experiences, tell your stories, and help normalize all different kinds of sexual perspectives. We seek to educate each other through personal narratives.
We are here to learn from one another.
We will talk about flirting and compliments and how to make someone feel good about themselves.
We will talk about how nuance is hard and it’s easy to make mistakes.
We’ll talk about how to let someone know when you’re not interested.
We’ll talk about how to let someone know when you are interested.
We’re here to HELP you get laid.
You may have heard that laughter is the best medicine and THAT IS CORRECT.
We believe that sharing laughter breaks the ice, and invites everyone not to take themselves too seriously.
We are here to play.
RULES - AGREEMENTS
We are inclusive and kind. We do not tolerate hate speech. We believe all humans deserve respect. We offer the benefit of the doubt. If you are concerned about someone’s behavior, or have feedback about someone, please share it privately with the facilitators.
We honor each other’s boundaries.
“No” is a complete sentence.
You are encouraged to take care of yourself at all times.
Towards the end of a spin, you are invited to offer your contact information to anyone who interests you, and invite them to continue the conversation. You are only allowed to contact them once - and if they are interested, they can respond. We respectfully request that you limit your ask to ONE TIME ONLY. Failure to follow this request will result in removal from the event.
No one is required to respond to requests. Ever.
We will monitor feedback and responses, and take action to remove people from the event on a case by case basis. Your safety is our highest priority.
PLEASURE ACTIVISM: At the end of the spin, you are welcome to share links about what you are doing to make the world a better place! (volunteer opportunities, protests, performances - let's help each other out!)
Please note -
You will have the most optimal experience if you
play on a laptop
(though a phone/tablet will work- just not with all the functionality)
For those NOT on facebook,
please send an email to the organizer
and answer the following questions:
Do you consider yourself anti-racist? Do you believe that Black lives matter?
Do you consider yourself a feminist? Do you support gender equality?
Do you consider yourself sex-positive?(Loosely defined, sex-positivity is the belief that sexuality is an important part of human existence and should be included in conversations about dating and mating).
Do you live in (or visit often) PORTLAND OREGON?
Once we receive your email, we'll send you the schedule and ticket links so you can sign up directly.
Fridays: PAN (8pm Pacific)
Saturdays: HET (8pm Pacific)
Spins run about 2 hours
(Ticket links available in the